01gt4.6

Chibi, I obviously don't know your home situation but I'm guessing that it's safe to say that things can get intense there and everyone knows it, right? Your mom many find it funny to do it to him, but would he take it in stride or would it make matters worse?

I went back and edited my post but you may not read it. I'm going to try to stay out of this one unless something is directed towards or in response to me.

I've learned a long time ago that just because you have an opinion it doesn't mean that everyone wants to hear it, so I have to keep that in mind.

01gt4.6

I got up around 3am... again and a PB&J it was. This morning I was going to make bacon and eggs. Cooked the bacon and couldn't stomach the thought of eggs so I ended up with bacon and a pancake. I've been going low carb lately but my main focus is staying clean, no cookies, cake, donuts, blasts, etc. Just food, so today will not turn into a cheat but I still have to watch my calories to make my calorie goal for the week.

I got on the scale this morning and I'm back down some (171.4) but not where I should be for the week. I swear I'm not trying to sabotage my bet with Rose by starting Monday with a higher number than anticipated. In fact, for the last two nights I drank a cup of some "special" tea . I'm really starting to think that this shot is making me retain some bloat. It is what it is, I guess. I'm too close to my 5 week, 169# goal to not get it but I may not be able to keep pace with Rose, I guess we'll see.

Mern, your ideas about bread sound great. I may have to look into some options but the main time that I have bread is for a PB&J, I will on occasion have a low carb wrap.

cjohnson728

Mike, I don't think your opinions were offensive at all. The only time I have a problem with opinions is when someone generalizes their way as being one that would work for everyone. You are always very clear in acknowledging that each person has to do their own thing.

My dad used to have a look that would generate huge waves of remorse and a desire to never do anything bad again. I've been working on it and I think I've just about got it. I'm blessed, though; other than ADHD, the occasional neurotic spasms, and the procrastination, I've got it easy. And the tendency to slip into the "all brains, no common sense" realm. Come to think of it, that all describes my husband as well . I'm sure if I had been able to have another, s/he would've been a huge handful!

taubele

This thread has been so busy!! Trying to catch up, but if I miss anyone, trust me, it's not on purpose!! Hugs to you all! Especially to those dealing with past or present teenager/child woes. I've never been a mother so I can probably only vaguely imagine the amounts of heartache and unbridled joy that children seem to bring. All I can offer is to say that each and every woman here who speaks about her children obviously loves them with all her heart, and is doing her best. You are ALL doing your best (And Mike seems like a great and loving dad too!). Take heart; as long as you care about your children and keep trying, you're doing alright.

quinn: Sorry about your day from hell! UGH! Though I think seeing that much potato salad might cure me of the potato salad cravings I get once in awhile... :eyeroll:

Mern: You are doing awesome despite the little slip! Good for you! I'm glad your daughters' health concerns are moving in the right direction, and that you are there to help guide your son. It's not easy being young and trying to get a foothold in during this economy. Heck, it's not easy being ANYONE in this economy.

Mike: Man, I don't even know if I could keep up with you guys, but I can sure try, and I'll even figure out how to get the picture of the scale up so it's not gigantic! I just need a proper punishment/motivational whip-crack...

Friday Report Card

1) 6000-7000 calorie deficit for the week M: -886 T: -517 W: -517 Th: +35 F: -75 (Week Total: -1,885)
2) Average of 1200-1400 calories for the week. No single day over 1,500 calories M: 1,157 T: 1,351 W: 1,351 (yes, the exact same number! Th: 1,903 F: 1,790 (Week Average: 1,510)
3) Exercise 3-4 times this week M: yes, 30DS, Level 2 T: No W: No Th: No F: No
4) Eat a fruit or vegetable serving with every meal M: No (breakfast) T: yes (I am counting a baked potato as a veggie. Just a starchy one) W: yes Th: no F: no
5) Daily multivitamin M: yes T: yes W: yes Th: yes F: yes
6) Cals over 1,100 on Saturday and Sunday M-F: N/A
7) Report/read this thread every day, including weekends!!! M: yes! T: yes W: yes Th: fail F: yes
8) 96 oz. of water daily M: yes T: No (64) W: no (80) Th: yes F: no (64)

9) Clean/vacuum out car M-F: No
10) Donate laundry bags full of fat clothes M-F: No
11) Balance August budget M: A little T: A little more W: Done! Th-Sun: N/A

Ugh.

I'm sick of last-minute things coming up all the time. I spent all day yesterday dealing with grad student's toe - I hadn't even heard the whole story. Apparently, she got into a fight with Grad Student #2, had a temper tantrum, and kicked the wall.

In the epic battle of Toe vs. Wall, Wall wins every time, and she somehow managed to kick it hard enough to fracture her big toe even while wearing sneakers. If I weren't so annoyed at the silliness/impulsivity/childishness of the injury, I'd probably be impressed that she kicked so hard.

Once I found out the nature of the injury, I was less pleased to drive her from Urgent Care --> Orthopedic Specialist --> Pharmacy to get her pain meds --> Getting fast food for lunch --> Back to her apartment.

THEN.

She had heard a mouse in her house, and had put down sticky pads a day ago. Well, she caught the mouse late last night (around 9:00), but didn't want to to kill it (apparently, she did not realize that the sticky pad would not kill the mouse >.>) and begged me to come over to help her get rid of it because, apparently, she has no other friends.

So I had to go over and show her how to free a mouse from a sticky pad. Which is easily done with acetone, or soap + water, if anyone was curious! And oh, I made her dinner, because she was zoned out on pain medicine on the couch with her foot up. She didn't have much healthy, and at the end of the day my cals were up.

I'm not sure whether to laugh about the ridiculousness of the day or be really annoyed that two days in a row got messed up on my diet I'm trying to shake it off, but I'm feeling really unmotivated today. I think I'll try a new workout -- I get FitTV on demand, and I think there are some 40-minute cardio selections on there. Nothing like having to pay attention to a new workout/new moves to make the time fly!

Happy weekend everyone!

~Terri

01gt4.6

Terri, if you need punishment/motivation how about giving blood? Just for the record, I doubt that I can after having and epidural and if I could I wouldn't do it just weeks away from a 1/2 marathon, so don't ask.

Do be scared, if the pic is too big I can resize it for ya.

Btw that's an insane calorie goal!!!!

Cassie, thanks! We are all different and handle situations differently. Sometimes I have to remind myself about that.

canary52

MY DD lied about being at a friend's house and I caught her up at the bf's, thinkin she'd have an overnight with Mr. Eau Du You Wear Too Much Body Spray and their friends. She actually tried to turn it on me by accusing me of not trusting her. (WTF!!??!!!) I said yeah that argument would work if you were where you said you'd be. She got grounded twice for this kind of stuff and now the few times the bf comes here, he looks at me like I killed his friggin dog. Yeah I'm the big bad b*!#h so what of it? I'm tired of trying to be her friend: I'm her MOM.

And Mike I take the lightbulbs out too and the kid sits in the dark by the light of her computer screen. You can't win here. I'd unplug the computer but apparently that's her life support. That and her cell phone. I should call her Our Lady of the Perpetual Text Message. BTW, you got a lot of estrogen going on where you live. Jeeze you gotta lift weights, have guys over or something before you start ovulating.

Mern, I need to erect a statue for you in my yard. You are incredible, all you are doing and going through. Dang, we need to all come down to Mike's neck of the woods and throw a New Orleans style parade for you. I am serious.

Terri, you too go above and beyond. Freeing a mouse from a sticky pad is not something I would do for my own kid.

Ok all so remember how I said stress caused me to lose my appetite? Yeah well I found it BIGTIME. At this point, even the cat food is not safe around me.

cjohnson728

Terri, what a comedy of errors day! Sheesh!

We used the sticky pads in our first house before we had the cats. My husband would take the mice on the pads in the car up to the woods behind the school (wow, preposition overload there) because he didn't want them close enough to come back in. I think he's probably the only person on the planet who's ever driven rodents around like that.

So far my kid's only lied to me about such things as whether or not he's eaten a banana (found it whole, in the trash) and whether or not the contacts are in (also easily busted). He does not lie well, so I suppose that's part of why he usually doesn't. In kindergarten they made an honesty award for him because he was the only one dumb enough to tell on himself on a regular basis. It's always been a source of amusement, the way he blows himself in. I'm sure it'll change, but for now, I'll take it .

01gt4.6

You can win there, once you disconnect the life support. Unplug the computer and shut their phone off and she'll be marching to a new beat! I may go fishing again today, maybe that'll give me my guy fix, no locker room comments Cassie.

Mern, would have a problem with a N.O. parade b/c a sugar covered king cake and N.O. parades go hand in hand.

Mern

Mike, my idea of a PB&J is on really soft white bread. Wouldn't be the same on Ezekiel/Food For Life bread or on tortillas or wraps. But now I lick my NM peanut butter right off the measuring spoon. I don't want to ruin it with bread and jelly. LOL


[QUOTE=cjohnson728;53549]Not in my book!

One of my favorite ways to get kids to think about how they act is to have them write an essay or a letter about it .!

Great idea, Cassie. My almost 10 year old granddaughter would hate that plus she'd be forced to listen to HERSELF about how she should act. LOL


Mike, I was quite interested in your opinion. This is an open forum and if someone doesn't like what you have to say, they don't have to read it. My husband took our daughter's door off for slamming it when she was a teenager. It wasn't a new door--his point was that you just don't treat doors that way and if you don't know how to close a door properly, you don't need one on your bedroom door frame. LOL One time when she stomped up the stairs in anger, I made her walk up and down them normally twenty times.

Whoever is interested: I never needed to slap or spank my kids. One time when my daughter was about 9 and was standing in the corner, she asked me why I don't just hit her like other parents do their children and I said "because hitting is over with too quickly." She said she'd rather be hit than stand in the corner and I told her that was valuable information to me.

About rules in different houses: my 17 year old granddaughter asked me what my rules would be when she moves in with us, and I told her it will be the same rules that her Mom has for her. I added that her Mom will still be in charge of big decisions or anything I'm not certain how her Mom would like me to handle things, so "don't think of trying to manipulate me. " I think she thought I'd be more lenient with her, but my daughter has the same rules for her as I had for my daughter when she was a teenager.

Quinn, I know you didn't say it, but, my son didn't ask for my opinion or for me to fix it. Although he does live with us, he's very independent in decision making. I just stepped in to offer him some advice and words of caution on making impulsive decisons after his poorly laid plans were causing me to lose sleep with worry. I can't fix his problem. Sometimes my daughter needs help handling stuff because she gets overwhelmed as a single parent of four (no child support & her ex lives out of state) and she just cries and throws up her hands and does nothing. After having to help her twice with her mortgage payment, I now have her give me a certain amount of money per week so she won't spend her mortgage, property tax and house insurance money on non-necessities. But I told her she has to learn how to do this without her Mommy handling it for her. At work, though, she's a take-charge person and is actually in charge of PROBLEM SOLVING. Go figure!

Gotta catch up after dinner.

01gt4.6

Mern, did I get you hooked on NM? You must admit, it's a great way to get in some Omega-3.

I feel the same way about doors and property in general. Plus I knew that yanking the door and losing privacy is a good attitude adjuster.

When your daughter was asking you to hit her you could have offered to do both. LOL

I put my daughter in the corner one time and that was enough. I had her stand on her toes with her nose in the corner and her arms above her head and fingertips also in the corner. After a few minutes, it was enough for her. That was almost 15 years ago I guess.