When people make you feel worthless...
05-05-2011 | 05:01 AM
#31
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Joined: Feb 2011
Posts: 630
Their problem not yours
Leftover,
You've heard it before, but people only make stupid remarks like that when they are insecure - you are a powerful woman (and apparently, now this ship has several powerful women), they believe they need to be powerful men (and they do, I want them serving too!!), and putting you down gives a little strength. The challenge is to not be sucked into letting them decide who you are (a lot easier said than done).
Re crying - it's been a problem of mine, I am supposed to be a powerful professional woman, ready to negotiate and take anything on, but a sadistic boss (fortunatly ex boss) found that he could get me to cry with little snide remarks and took great pleasure in doing so, then telling me it was clear I couldn't handle the work.
I'm rooting for you!
Abby
You've heard it before, but people only make stupid remarks like that when they are insecure - you are a powerful woman (and apparently, now this ship has several powerful women), they believe they need to be powerful men (and they do, I want them serving too!!), and putting you down gives a little strength. The challenge is to not be sucked into letting them decide who you are (a lot easier said than done).
Re crying - it's been a problem of mine, I am supposed to be a powerful professional woman, ready to negotiate and take anything on, but a sadistic boss (fortunatly ex boss) found that he could get me to cry with little snide remarks and took great pleasure in doing so, then telling me it was clear I couldn't handle the work.
I'm rooting for you!
Abby
06-02-2011 | 04:30 AM
#32
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Joined: Jul 2010
Posts: 41
CRIMPET:
As Eleanor Roosevelt famously said: No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
let's see: you live in a country other than the one you grew up in, you navigate daily in a strange language, you have learned a skill that very few people have even TRIED to master, you run a household (complete with children & husband), you have plans for the future...If others can't appreciate you for who you are and what you have done, IT'S THEIR LOSS. If they can't see and understand your accomplishments, it means that they are blind to what is around them. The world is full of incredible people, and you are one of them.
By the way, I teach nursing at a university, and the average age of our students is 34 years (one of my students had to take his final exams early to attend his daughter's college graduation!). Nursing isn't easy, but the older students actually do better than the traditional 18-20 year olds. College? GO FOR IT!
Yehudit
As Eleanor Roosevelt famously said: No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
let's see: you live in a country other than the one you grew up in, you navigate daily in a strange language, you have learned a skill that very few people have even TRIED to master, you run a household (complete with children & husband), you have plans for the future...If others can't appreciate you for who you are and what you have done, IT'S THEIR LOSS. If they can't see and understand your accomplishments, it means that they are blind to what is around them. The world is full of incredible people, and you are one of them.
By the way, I teach nursing at a university, and the average age of our students is 34 years (one of my students had to take his final exams early to attend his daughter's college graduation!). Nursing isn't easy, but the older students actually do better than the traditional 18-20 year olds. College? GO FOR IT!
Yehudit
05-10-2025 | 08:59 AM
#33
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Joined: Jun 2024
Posts: 104
When people make you feel worthless, remember that your true value is defined by your Creator, not by others. Surah Yaseen offers deep comfort and reassurance during such times, reminding us of Allah’s mercy, purpose, and the eternal worth of every soul. Reflecting on its verses can bring peace to a troubled heart and strength to a weary mind. If you’re seeking solace and meaning through the Quran, consider Clicking here to explore the powerful words of Surah Yaseen and reconnect with your inner worth through divine wisdom.
10-28-2025 | 07:00 PM
#34
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Joined: Apr 2025
Posts: 128
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