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In need of support and motivation!


Old 01-07-2010, 05:40 AM
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Hi! My name is Lacey. I'm 22 years old and have struggled with my weight my whole life. The summer before my senior year of high school I decided to work out everyday and watch what I ate...I lost about 50 lbs. But over the past few years I've gained it all back and then some. I'm at the heaviest I've ever been.

I feel horrible about myself all the time and never feel beautiful anymore. I try to explain how I feel to my husband and voice to him how badly I want to lose weight, hoping he will motivate me. But he doesn't understand. He somehow thinks I'm beautiful just the way I am. I'm so depressed about my weight and even more depressed that I worked so hard to lose weight and then just gained it all back.

I have NO self esteem or self confidence anymore and its starting to effect my marriage. Anytime I see a girl who is thinner than me I automatically assume my husband thinks she's hot. Stupid, I know. I feel so immature when I do this but I can't control it. Has anyone else gone through this? Any stories, words of wisdom, or advise would be greatly appreciated. And, good luck to everyone on here!
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Old 01-08-2010, 02:08 AM
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Hey girl, you are not alone. I have struggled with my weight my whole life. I was a thick child and teenager. When I graduated I weighed about 160 and wore size 14 dress. I got married at 19 and I felt the same way you do now. Whenever I saw a skinny girl I also accused my husband of checking her out. I lost weight but gained it all back after I had kids. In 2005 I decided to start eating healthier and change the way I felt about food. It is for nourishment and not for pleasure or comfort. I believe this is the first step. I am now 37 and I feel great. I weigh about 145 and I wear a size 6 in dresses. Although people think of my as skinny, when I look in the mirror I still see the thick teenage girl. Go figure.
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Old 01-11-2010, 01:20 AM
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Hi Lacey.
I feel your pain! I'm also 22, and I was overweight in my early teens. I lost 50 pounds and kept it off for about 2 years, then it slowly started creeping back. I felt great at 155 lbs. I know it's not "skinny", but that's when I felt healthy. I'm now over 200!!! I feel horrible about myself, but can't get motivated. I get depressed and crave sweets. Argh!
But time to kick that habit in the butt! I'm ready to get healthy again, and I'm also looking for motivation and support. I have quite a few different exercise videos, and my husband and I have access to a small gym. I'm going to try to fit in atleast 30 minutes a day of exercise and watching closely what I eat.
If support is what you need, you've got it! We can do this!!!!
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Old 01-11-2010, 02:09 PM
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Hi I would be glad to chat with you and see if I can be any support. I am also trying to lose about 30+ pounds at the moment and I battle with self esteem issues because of my weight, maybe we can help each other. I have been using this site for a week now and it has been great and really has helped me. My email is [email protected], shoot me an email anytime, we can try to do this together!!!
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Old 01-15-2010, 12:58 AM
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I can relate with everything you said...well minus the husband part being I am not married lol. When i read your story i felt like it was a biography of me. I also need motivation and support when on a diet because otherwise I will fail miserably sooner or later. I would love to be support buddies with you. My email address is [email protected]. If anyone else who reads this wants to email me as well please feel free! I hope to hear from you and good luck with this! You can do it!
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Old 06-22-2010, 03:04 AM
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Wow, I feel like I'm reading my life as well. Especially after I had my kids. I always thought I was ugly and my body didn't resemble the shape of a woman anymore. I was just folds of skin with stick legs. As the years passed I never tried to lose weight but amazingly it came off. Then in the past 4 years I slowly gained 30 lbs and decided to stop it. Also, I needed to change because of a few things that was going on in my life at the same time. My boyfriend liked me the way I was too. He "kind of" supports me on my weight loss. He really doesn't care too much. The only thing he complains about now is that he can't grab me by my love handles anymore. But I did notice him checking me out every now and then. I use to hate when skinny girls came along as well. I never accused my man of checking them out because I know I will drive myself insane, I just wanted to beat the crap out of her for making me jealous. LOL!!! I got over it though.

You can do this. We are all here because we care and we want to help you succeed. We've been through it and lived it. You deserve to be happy and we want to help you on this journey. In time your self esteem will come back.

Hang in there sweety.
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