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changeisgood29 06-19-2010 11:31 PM

Scared to weigh myself
Hello all, first, let me thank you all for typing out your fears, your woes, your obsessions, and your victories! I will confess that I am much more likely to "lurk" in forums and haven't actually posted on one since I was a Pearl Jam-obsessed teenager on music sites. But I digress. :)

Here's my thing... I am scared outta my mind to get on a scale. The last time I weighed myself was a little over a year ago, right before I got married, and it really derailed any notions I had of losing weight (for the record, at that time the scale read 225, and I am 5'4). It made me feel as if all was hopeless, and I was a lost cause, etc. etc. etc.

Well, fast forward a year or so later, and for the past month and a half or so, my husband and I have started consistently exercising and are eating waaay better than we used to. I feel much better, but it's hard to tell if I've made any progress because of my scale fear and because I have so far to go. I suppose I should mention that I've had a lifelong issue with my weight. The only time I was 'skinny' was as a teenager (a bit past the Pearl Jam stage, though :o) when I was anorexic and obsessively weighing myself every morning. I know daily weigh-ins are good for some folks, but I don't want to go back to that habit.

So, my friends, before I bite that proverbial bullet and buy a scale, I'm here asking you for your feedback about this issue. I want to keep track of my progress, but I'm afraid of what the numbers will read and what that would do to my mental state regarding weight loss, self-image, etc. As it is I am the heaviest I've been in my life and I wouldn't wish my self-hatred on anybody. To make matters worse, I think this is such a foolish fear but I need some help getting over it. Thanks for reading!

cjohnson728 06-19-2010 11:41 PM

Hi change, and welcome. We are glad to have you and thanks for posting. It's awesome that you've made living healthier a part of you life for you and your husband both. Congratulations!!

I can understand what you are saying about the scale. Despite the fact that it's "just a number," it can make or break self-esteem for some of us. My advice is to be gentle with yourself and don't push it. Take a tape measure and measure your progress instead...under the "Body" tab there is a place to load your progress as your waist, hips, thighs, etc. shrink. Another thing to do would be to take a piece of clothing and try it on once a week and see the change in fit. Take pics in it if you feel comfortable with that. You will see changes in these ways, I promise, and you won't have to cope with the stupid scale :). Once you've made progress you can see and have bolstered yourself up a little, getting on the scale might not seem so bad. Keep up the good work!

changeisgood29 06-19-2010 11:47 PM

I'll take inches over pounds :D
Thank you very much for the kind words - my husband and I are going shopping tonight - we'll pick up a tape measure. Funny that I can deal with inches easier than pounds, haha. Seriously, though, I like the idea... like a good compromise between getting 'number' results but also not going through any undue stress over poundage. Thanks!!

Lizzycritter 06-20-2010 12:02 AM

Some folks here set their scales to kilograms instead of pounds, because while it's still a number, it's less emotionally charged. But the fit of your clothes or a tape measure is another good way to go. I've also set myself non-scale-related goals, like being able to set the weight machines higher or set the incline on the elliptical one notch higher, right now it's getting my RPM's up on the "red devil" as the trainer at my gym calls it. I have joint issues and can't do as much as I would like to sometimes, so I have to remind myself it's about getting healthy and it really doesn't matter how slow the scale ticks downward, as long as I'm making progress it's all good;)

Someone on here measures progress in "sticks of butter", I like that one a lot. There's 4 sticks in a pound, so that gives me a really big emotionally satisfying number to track. Plus I can go to the grocery store and count out the butter packages to get a good visual idea of what I've lost so far.

changeisgood29 06-20-2010 01:15 AM

Great points, Lizzy. Just got back from the gym... Hoo boy, do I hear ya about being able to up the intensity a bit. I'm not quite ready yet, but it doesn't hurt as much as it did a month ago, so that IS progress. The butter stick idea is a good one, and one my mom showed me many moons ago :) It is visually very striking. Thanks, you two, for the pointers and encouragement - I'm not over my 'scale fear' yet, but I'll get there. Btw, definitely happy I posted and got some good ideas and encouragement.

NessaSonic 06-20-2010 10:31 PM

you could try weighing yourself once a month. Or, not at all and just go by how you feel, what your food logs say, and how your clothes fit. I wish I wasn't so obsessed with the scale, because I think that's probably a much healthier and more natural way to lose weight!

vickytoria3112 06-21-2010 12:55 AM

I would definately say the measuring would be the best way to go if the scale isn't an option.

I wish you and your hubby the best of luck. It's wonderful to see a couple get healthy together. Sometimes I wish I had someone with me holding me accountable. Then I think again and say I do. My children. ;)

Wylie7 06-21-2010 01:36 PM

I totally hear you about the scale. I was going to a trainer for a while and I thought I had lost a bunch of weight, but it turned out I had not lost even 1 pound in 2 months. I had lost 6 inches and my pants all fit better, but I could not get it out of my head that the scale did not change.

I'm with the previous posters, use the measuring tape! It is much better than relying on a scale (that may not be accurate anyway).

changeisgood29 06-22-2010 01:40 AM

When I posted this, I thought I was being a total wuss about not going on the scale... I just told my husband how much positive feedback I got about not using a scale, and going with the brilliant measuring tape idea - I'll eventually get on the scale again, but I totally feel so much better about giving it some time before I do. And Wylie, 6 inches is a huge loss! Don't let any scale tell you differently. :P Congratulations!

cjohnson728 06-22-2010 02:23 AM

Good for you, changeisgood! You have to do what works for you. It's silly to get caught up in a number, but we do. During the time I was actively losing weight I gave my scale to my husband to keep at work for two or three weeks. Couldn't keep off of it if it was here but was really frustrated with the plateaus. Here's to decreasing measurements!!

Some days I will get on the scale to motivate me to eat better that day; some days I will get on if I feel like it's going to be a good number and I need the boost. But I make sure to check my mental state beforehand and if I'm feeling not so strong, I don't get on. You know yourself better than anyone else, so trust your own judgment on this. You'll do it when you're ready and only then, and that's perfectly ok.

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