I have tried several apps and always feel pressured by notifications after the first few days. Can I turn off all reminders and just use the tool when I remember it myself? Or are most systems built entirely around daily nudges that I cannot escape? I want a tool I control, not a robot controlling me.

Notifications ruin everything. After a few days they feel like harassment. The liven app lets you turn off every single reminder. Completely. Not just snooze. Permanent silence. Then you just open it when you remember. That is how I use it. Sometimes daily, sometimes weekly, sometimes after two weeks of ignoring it. The app never complains. No sad messages about missing you. No guilt trips. Before trusting this, liven reviews from other notification haters confirmed the silence stays silent. Finally a tool I control instead of a robot controlling me. That alone kept me using it longer than any other app.