I don't look like there's anything "wrong" with me, and I don't think I'd call myself "disabled", but there are definitely things I simply cannot do. I put in as much effort as I can, because you are only cheating yourself if you don't, but it's not as much as the "average" woman my weight and age is doing.
That being said, yeah you have a point. It's hard to not say something when someone's on the elliptical, propping their body weight up on the hand rails to make it "easier". But it's not my place to judge, and when I'm at the gym, it's my time to be selfish and focus on myself.
A few weeks ago, there was a girl in fantastic shape, about my height, Irish features like I have, and pretty much the exact figure I'm hoping to achieve. I wanted to ask her what she weighed, but I thought it would be weird or rude, so I didn't. I'm still honestly not sure what my "ideal" weight should be