7 Day Motivational Thread Starting 02/27/12
#201
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You asked me what would have helped me and I don't have an answer. I don't know if anything would have helped or I just had to find my way in my own time. I bolded the above because it strikes me as extremely hopeful. For her to bring up the therapist means she has been thinking about it and is open to it, or she wouldn't have said anything at all. But the thing in this that strikes me the most is not wanting to be miserable or hurt any more. Pain or the lack there of is the greatest motivator. Only when i was so tired of hurting by doing it my way did i become open to trying it some one else's way. When we are beaten we become willing. You both are in my thoughts and prayers. And thank you for the kind words about my mom and i believe you are right, she sees how far i have come. I miss her a lot. I was only 22 when she died.
That being said, I did and I DO worry. Human beings are imperfect and parents are human. And fear is a terrible place to try to operate from. Not to excuse it but I hope she can forgive.
Last edited by canary52; 03-02-2012 at 02:57 PM.
#202
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Ever act angry at one small thing when it's really something else much bigger?
Ever say I will just go out and order the appetizer instead of dinner, then order dinner and eat both? And this after already consuming a day's worth (or more) of food?
Today I had sushi, hummus and vegetable curry. So what will I have tonight? Heartburn?
Those of you who can go out there and do it, exercise, babies!!!! Though there IS something to be said for leftover vegetable curry consumed at room temperature...
Ever say I will just go out and order the appetizer instead of dinner, then order dinner and eat both? And this after already consuming a day's worth (or more) of food?
Today I had sushi, hummus and vegetable curry. So what will I have tonight? Heartburn?
Those of you who can go out there and do it, exercise, babies!!!! Though there IS something to be said for leftover vegetable curry consumed at room temperature...
#203
So I was happily munching away on some raisins today when I realized that I hadn't looked up the nutrition on them. They gotta be healthy since they are just dried fruit....right? Um! I ate over 400 calories in a cup of raisins!!
#205
So, I need a place to vent....here I go (in white)
As previously posted, I was cranky because of the restaurant. I got home, in a horrible mood but was still determined to get my workout in. So crappy mood or not, I grabbed the knee brace and shoes and was ready to do the Cardio Burn. Then it hit. The storm of negativity that is my mother. I swear, she can make the happiest person on earth want to crawl in a hole somewhere and cry. I love my mother, I really do. And I really think that she means well, it's just that she doesn't think about HOW she says things. She asked what I was planning on doing, and I told her, and she said "Well, your face and arms are getting a lot thinner, but it's going to take a lot of work to get rid of that belly." I mean, seriously? Who says that to someone? I just kind of looked at her, shocked and asked why she would make a comment like that. Her reply? "Well, you were a BIG person. And when someone is as big as you were it IS going to take a while." Apparently, I'm a moron who didn't know that she was extremely obese. And apparently I don't know that I still have a long way to go.
She seriously didn't know that what she had said and how she said it would upset me. But how would it NOT upsest me? As of Thursday morning I've lost 53 lbs but with comments like hers tonight it almost makes me feel like I still haven't done enough. That maybe somehow it should be more than that by now. Rationally I KNOW that I've already lost a lot of weight in a short amount of time. But the irrational part of me is second guessing myself now. HAVE I done enough so far?
I started the DVD, and barely got through the warmup before I hit the stop button. I couldn't workout when I was in such a negative state of mind. I sat on my bed trying to fight back the tears. Crying isn't going to get me anywhere, and in the long run makes me feel worse. So, now I've let her screw up my goals for the week too. And it makes me really think and stress about Life Goal #3: Don't stress about it, but at least think about it. And I've really been thinking about it more and more. And the outcome of that decision has a heavy price. It'll break my Momma's heart, but it's what would make me happy. It's just really hard.
Thank you all for listening (reading). It has just been one of those nights. And now I'm at my cousin's house because one doesn't stay in a double wide during a tornado warning. And I'm eating Classic Lays and drinking regular Coke, cause it's all there is here. And now I'm sitting here listening to Jasmine cry and meow because she's scared. She's in a house she's never been in and she's locked in a laundry room. Now I AM crying, cause it's just so pitiful. And there's nothing I can do to make it better for her. But I wasn't leaving her in a double wide alone during a tornado warning. SIGH!!!! Tomorrow will be a better day.
As previously posted, I was cranky because of the restaurant. I got home, in a horrible mood but was still determined to get my workout in. So crappy mood or not, I grabbed the knee brace and shoes and was ready to do the Cardio Burn. Then it hit. The storm of negativity that is my mother. I swear, she can make the happiest person on earth want to crawl in a hole somewhere and cry. I love my mother, I really do. And I really think that she means well, it's just that she doesn't think about HOW she says things. She asked what I was planning on doing, and I told her, and she said "Well, your face and arms are getting a lot thinner, but it's going to take a lot of work to get rid of that belly." I mean, seriously? Who says that to someone? I just kind of looked at her, shocked and asked why she would make a comment like that. Her reply? "Well, you were a BIG person. And when someone is as big as you were it IS going to take a while." Apparently, I'm a moron who didn't know that she was extremely obese. And apparently I don't know that I still have a long way to go.
She seriously didn't know that what she had said and how she said it would upset me. But how would it NOT upsest me? As of Thursday morning I've lost 53 lbs but with comments like hers tonight it almost makes me feel like I still haven't done enough. That maybe somehow it should be more than that by now. Rationally I KNOW that I've already lost a lot of weight in a short amount of time. But the irrational part of me is second guessing myself now. HAVE I done enough so far?
I started the DVD, and barely got through the warmup before I hit the stop button. I couldn't workout when I was in such a negative state of mind. I sat on my bed trying to fight back the tears. Crying isn't going to get me anywhere, and in the long run makes me feel worse. So, now I've let her screw up my goals for the week too. And it makes me really think and stress about Life Goal #3: Don't stress about it, but at least think about it. And I've really been thinking about it more and more. And the outcome of that decision has a heavy price. It'll break my Momma's heart, but it's what would make me happy. It's just really hard.
Thank you all for listening (reading). It has just been one of those nights. And now I'm at my cousin's house because one doesn't stay in a double wide during a tornado warning. And I'm eating Classic Lays and drinking regular Coke, cause it's all there is here. And now I'm sitting here listening to Jasmine cry and meow because she's scared. She's in a house she's never been in and she's locked in a laundry room. Now I AM crying, cause it's just so pitiful. And there's nothing I can do to make it better for her. But I wasn't leaving her in a double wide alone during a tornado warning. SIGH!!!! Tomorrow will be a better day.
Last edited by ToriD1012; 03-03-2012 at 03:19 AM.
#206
Hugs Tori! Sounds like your mom means well but isn't very tactful and when one of those comments hits you at the wrong time like it did last night it can ruin your whole day. But that was yesterday. Pick yourself up today, know that she didn't mean it hurtfully, and get back to what you know you are out to do. You can do it!
#207
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Ditto to what April said. But I also want to offer you a hug ((((Tori)))))
What your mom said was insensitive at the least. As a mom, I know we can say some pretty stupid things. But, Tori, you have come so far - 53 pounds. You're exercising and still losing even after vacay. Plus you are so vibrant and fun in your posts. Just your sensititivity to Jasmine shows the kind of heart you have. So I hope what your mom said doesn't discourage you. And I hope today is a much borghter day for you.
What your mom said was insensitive at the least. As a mom, I know we can say some pretty stupid things. But, Tori, you have come so far - 53 pounds. You're exercising and still losing even after vacay. Plus you are so vibrant and fun in your posts. Just your sensititivity to Jasmine shows the kind of heart you have. So I hope what your mom said doesn't discourage you. And I hope today is a much borghter day for you.
#208
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I gain a pound and lose two, I lose two pounds and gain four. Maybe I should just accept being ten pounds fluffier than I want to be? Nahhhhhh... But I swear on my tombstone it will read: She had just ten... more...pounds...to...go...
Hoping the weather gets as nice as they say it will so I can go for a walk...
Hoping the weather gets as nice as they say it will so I can go for a walk...
#209
Oh Nooooooo! Don't give in . . . .
I gain a pound and lose two, I lose two pounds and gain four. Maybe I should just accept being ten pounds fluffier than I want to be? Nahhhhhh... But I swear on my tombstone it will read: She had just ten... more...pounds...to...go...
Hoping the weather gets as nice as they say it will so I can go for a walk...
Hoping the weather gets as nice as they say it will so I can go for a walk...
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ETA: I plan to come back later & read through more later. Got other things to do at the moment.
Let's Stay Strong! One foot forward at a time.