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Good grief some people clearly weren't disciplined enough as children. We're these imbeciles adults? You don't deserve that kind of treatment from anyone, no one does. I'm more of a loose cannon, I probably would have gotten up and said something rude like "Well I may be heavy but at least I'm not so stupid as to think a cow says oink". Well honey, truthfully I would rather be Jabba the Hut fat than stupid and rude. When people are insulting it just goes to show that they don't think too highly of themselves and feel the need to bring others down to their level. Don't let them get to you, they aren't worth it. And 53 pounds is soooo awesome, keep it going.

Cravings during PMS is normal, I suffer with it every month just like clockwork. What you might do is limit the fattening foods in your house so that when you do have these uncontrollable cravings all you have on hand is the healthy stuff. An apple binge is pretty harmless.

I am appalled at what happened to you! These were adults? WTF?

Don't take them to heart, they are obviously disturbed people. 53 lbs is amazing.

Also, stop beating yourself up NOW! Just start over. The past is the past. Take a look at your diet plan? Does it make you feel deprived? I've learned that for me, if I find ways to indulge on a regular basis, I don't go crazy nearly as often as if I feel deprived. I LOVE food of all kinds, so saying no isn't easy.

The good, the bad, and the ugly
 

Hi Amylee,
The ugly is what those cretins behind you are. You are to be commended for not turning around and slugging them. (I know violence doesn't solve anything - but sometimes there is something carthartic about thinking about it.)

The bad is those cravings that seem to just take control sometimes.

The good is that you have a pretty good idea when the worst of the cravings are going to hit you, so can do a little planning. In some cultures the monthly cycle is celebrated. It is time for women to get together, pray and connect. Why not plan for a little indulgence, by stocking up on things that seem "bad" but are the diet destroyers you might think.

100 calorie packs are great (a little expensive considering the contents) but at least you aren't faced with an open 1lb bag of chips.

Sugar and/or fat free pudding - the chocolate flavors are sinfully good, but calorie lite.

Popcorn - the 100 calorie packs or the lower fat variety for those salty/crunchy cravings.

Grapes. I am not much of a fruit eater when the serious cravings hit, but if there is a bowl of washed grapes around I'll occupy my mouth with grapes while the worst of the sugar craving subsides.

Sugar free hard candy and gum. I really like hard candies when the sugar monster hits - keeps the sweet taste coming, but even the regular kind has only a few calories per piece.

Finally do anything you have to do to avoid driving by a fast food joint. Sometimes just the sight of the old Carls Jr. is enough to make me what to pull in for a burger, fries, chicken sandwich, whatever.

53 pounds is great! You have worked hard to lose those pounds, you deserve to feel empowered and proud. So keep your successes in the front of your mind and push the little back-slides out of your mind.

Keep it up, girl, you are well on the way!

Amylee,

reading about such morons makes me very angry. It's quite worrysome that they can't tell a cow from a pig, but even more so that they would be rude enough to offend you in such a disgusting way. Please, don't take it to heart, they are so not worth it!!!

And congratulations on your fabulous weight loss - be proud of yourself!!

I too find it verrry hard to control myself when I'm graving a certain type of food, so I tend to give in - otherwise I would be tempted to give up on my diet completely because I would feel deprived. However, I try to go for dried fruits such as apricots and cranberries or a cup of hot choclate instead of a whole package of chocolate bars and really encourage myself to make up for it with a good workout the next day. This might not be the best of solutions, but the only one that seems to work for me right now. :o

Amylee...first of all a big hug to you! Dont let these *people* (and I use this term loosely) derail you. Youve come a long way and even though you are feeling a little out of control right now...you recognize it and are trying to get a handle on it. Good for you!!! Take it one hour at a time if you have to...when you get the urge to grab something take a minute and ask yourself if you are really hungry ?? Get rid of the junk food in the house as Almeeker has said its hard to overindulge in apples...good advice!

You are right - those people weren't worth your time!! 53 pounds is great!! I understand the cravings and set backs -- 53 pounds though wow what a great start - keep taking it one day at a time. Don't the the idiots of th world get you down!!

Gook Luck!!

Hi Amylee,
i am so angry by what you have had to experience. I am a figther and i would have gotten into a big fight with those stupid wastes, but you are right they are nobody and don't deserve your time.
i do admire you for your will power to drop 53 LB!!!!!!!! that is totally amazing!
the last thing, i also experience the same cravings when i have my period, just get over it and start fresh on your good eating plans again.

it sounds like they would have been idiots about anything and that their antics had very very little to do about your weight. Honestly, they would probably act the same to you if you were just 5lbs overweight, or not overweight in the slightest. anything to make someone feel worse than they feel about themselves. I'm glad you walked away instead of giving them what they wanted, it gives YOU the power.

53lbs is awesome!!! I can't wait to get to that point! It's a reality that we will have bad days/weeks, but the important part is to pick yourself right back up. Make a game plan. Have one horrible but delicious meal, but make plans to get to the gym or go play tennis with a friend the very next morning so you can remind yourself what your body truly needs.

amylee...I find it very difficult to read your post...As I sit here, I feel my blood pressure rise. You should be very proud of your self restraint (I don't know if I would have been that mature). You are doing great....I envy that 53 pound loss. Some "people" can only feel good about themselves by making others feel bad. Don't allow a couple of ignorant people control how you feel....don't give them that power. Repeat after me:
"I am strong...I am beautiful...I am healthy...and I like ME".

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent" Elanor Roosvelt

First off you're amazing for losing that much weight already. I'm totally jealous. :D Moving on to the dumb people that said such hurtful things... I think you did a great job by moving and not going down to their level. You are a great example for your daughter. We all have a days or even weeks where we give into the deliciousness of all the bad things that are bad for us. Now don't let those days dictate what you want to accomplish. Pick yourself up and move on in the same manner you did with those dumb people. :)

I hope you have a better rest of the week.

Thank you so much for the encouragement! Really, you guys made me feel a LOT better. I cried (again! thank you pms, haha) reading your responses. You know, I think my body decided to rebel last night, haha. I was SOOO sick overnight because of my 'splurge' eating. My stomach hurt, it was upset, I felt just horrible. I guess it doesnt' like the "old Amy" food. :) I started fresh today and while I DID sneak in a piece of chocolate, I was still well within my planned calories. I honestly feel lighter tonight, not sure if it's because I ate better or I feel more in control, maybe both!

Again, thank you all SO much. Thank you for helping me through my melt-down and for making me feel so much better. I'm pretty sure you are all amazing people! :)

I will first tell you what I tell my kids and I have always tried to live by:

No one can make you feel bad about yourself except YOU.

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People who try to make people feel bad actually feel bad about themselves. Seeing someone else hurting and miserable makes thme feel better about themselves.

I second the "these people are cretins". IGNORE them.

Now to the cravings- you've shed 53 pounds. That is no small feat. Walk proud. I keep sugar-free gelatin in the house for sugar cravings. Sometimes, fruit just doesn't work. I sometimes top it with the whip cream that comes in a can- 15 calories for a good size squirt (and that's not even the 'lite' version). I also have kids so I know it won't stay around too long- no temptation to finish the whole thing.

I also allow myself a dessert every night. Sometimes it's stella d'oro anisette toast, sometimes two oreos, sometimes sorbet or sherbet. Plan it, stick to the quantity. Eat it slowly. Then- pick up a book, plan your menu for tomorrow, go back to fitday and look at your stats, your menus, talk to us.

keep on keepin' on....

It's hard to believe the way people act sometimes. I don't know what I would've done in that situation. It makes me angry and upset that someone treated you that way. You lost 53 pounds and you should be so proud of that. You are a person who is deserving of respect and love, just as the rest of us are. I have bad days like you described too, where I just want to (and sometimes do!) eat everything bad thing I come across. It's hard. Sometimes the desire to eat is so overpowering that I just can't help it. I hope you have a better week and that you come here often to chat with people who know what you're going through and support you.

Today was a much better day! :) I honestly just feel lighter by eating right. I have more energy, feel less sluggish, and just feel all around better about myself. I have taken all the advice given to me by you wonderful people to heart. I keep repeating to myself that their opinion of me doesn't matter, that only I can make myself feel bad. I mean, yeah, it was so very embarassing to have it happen. And yeah, I felt/fell pretty crappy about it. BUT, I am a good person and nobody can take that away from me. So...they should really just go to Old McDonald's Farm and get a lesson on animal noises. Right? Right. :)

Thanks again for all the support...everyone! My cravings are well under control, my calories are where I want them to be. I think a big part of my issue was that I was limiting myself so so much, I wasn't allowing room for error. There were days I only hit 800 calories. Not a good thing. So, my newest goal is to hit at least 1200 and enjoy a piece of chocolate or something sweet when I am craving it. That doesn't mean I am going to sit down and eat a huge bag of peanut M&M's every night like I used to. But 1 Hershey Kiss a day won't kill me. I found some pretty amazing fudgsicles that are very low cal, fat free and pretty low in carbs. YUM. They really fix the chocolate craving. I go camping in a week and I am hoping to have myself back on track so that I don't spend the whole vacation stressing about not eating this and not eating that. I am planning our family menu of good, healthy stuff (and a few S'mores, haha). Lots of fruit, veggies and protein. Hopefully by being proactive I will avoid the whole "I WANT TO EAT BAD FOOD" scenario.

Ooops, I am rambling again. Thanks again for all the support. You guys are amazing.

You know it always seems to be when you are just feeling good about yourself that some smartass has to say something that sends you on a spiral! Little do they know what you've already achieved - 53 pounds WOW!

But you know the only person that can help you is ultimately YOU and sometimes you want someone to do it for you, I know I do. I just focus on the deficit in calories, what I need to reduce to lose the weight I want by the time I want. One Memphis Meltdown at 367 calories is not worth the 1 hour and 15 mins at the gym to work it OFF!

Keep on trucking though, I'm so impressed. Those people who say those things are just mean and nasty - don't worry 'what goes around, comes around'.

I'm just reading this now and feeling very sad and angry. I wish I was there so I could have said something. Just feel bad for them. They probably don't have anything really positive in their life and are surrounded by scum. I'm glad you got up and left the situation...certainly the best and most mature thing to do.

Maybe you should go to a kick boxing class or something and get out that aggression. Or just take a long walk and try to reflect on brighter things and work through this in your head.

Cravings are really hard for me to. They come and go. I guess they might have to do with my PMS but sometimes I'm just crazy and work myself into a craving. Maybe you are getting "it" out of your system now and then you can go back to your "on plan mind-frame." Were you being too strict with yourself? Is there something else bothering you that you aren't addressing and therefore eating more to escape from something?

I'll be thinking of you and wishing you positive thoughts.

Look at it this way, amylee...it will be a lot easier for you to lose weight than it will be for them to achieve some sense of respectability! Therefore you are light years ahead :).