Originally Posted by Mark999
I was tired of feeling run down all of the time.
What I've learned about myself with this thread is that many other aspects of my life are unfulfilled. This eventually leads me to the self destructive behavior of overeating, making poor choices and failing to exercise. I get into that cycle of "why bother?" thinking. I guess this is a form of 'all or nothing' ideology.
I also live in a desolate place. I think some new scenery would go a long way in giving me some motivation. My new focus is going to be finding a new place to live. One that's inspiring rather than depressing.
I love this quote that I lifted from a favorite movie. The character and movie will be revealed later.
“It's a great thing, when you realize you still have... the ability to surprise yourself. Makes you wonder what else you can do that you've forgotten about……”
Mark, I read your post and the comments of the respondents with great interest. It appears to me that you are taking great pains to improve yourself within many arenas. I definitely applaud you for that effort.
I can tell you that when I am aware, focused and motivated, I achieve good things. Conversely, when I’m not motivated, I ain’t worth sh*t!
Most people would agree that Intrinsic Motivation is the most effective and sustainable to work with. Toward that end, I went looking for a little insight to share with the group. Following are some excerpts worth noting that may be helpful to you and worth further investigation.
(Albie's comments are parenthesized) Bibliography follows
Three Factors That Promote Intrinsic Motivation
---People are best motivated when they are working toward personally meaningful goals whose attainment requires activity at an optimal (intermediate) level of difficulty.
Set personally meaningful goals. Make attainment of goals probable but uncertain.
Get ongoing performance feedback. (Log your foods, moods, activities and weight.)
Relate goals to individuals’ self esteem. (Give yourself the occasional attaboy and reward.)
---People have a basic tendency to want to control what happens to them.
Understand all the cause-and-effect relationships (Activity AND inactivity has consequences.)
The individual needs to believe that their work will lead to powerful outcomes.
Individuals should be able to freely choose what they want to do and how they will do it.
---Individuals feel satisfaction when others recognize and appreciate their accomplishments.
Recognition requires that the process or product or outcome be visible to self and others.
Recognition differs from competition. It is not a comparison to the performance of someone else.
The whole enchilada can be found here:
In closing, remember Lester Burnham in American Beauty? Played by Kevin Spacey? Now he was a character with intrinsic motivation! Read on.
Dialogue between Lester Burnham and the couple next door, Jim and Jim.
Lester is running to catch up with them as they are out jogging.
Jim----Lester. I didn't know you ran
Lester---- I just started.
Jim---- Good for you.
Lester----I figured you guys might be able to give me some pointers. I need to shape up, fast.
Jim----Are you looking to just lose weight, or do you want to have... increased strength and flexibility as well ?
Lester---- I --- I want to look good naked.
Excerpted from American Beauty Script - transcript from the screenplay and/or Sam Mendes movie with Kevin Spacey, Annette Bening, Thora Birch, etc.
Enjoy the day, everyone, and keep on keepin' on! -------Albie