What if?
#11
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Loving the stories. One of my colleagues took a year out this time last year to go travelling. I never mentioned the weight loss in our emails. I saw him yesterday for the first time in a year and he actually walked past me. the look on his face when he realised who I was was priceless! He just kept saying 'I can't believe the difference, you look fantastic' etc etc, which needless to say, was music to my ears
I have to ask almeeker, why David?
I have to ask almeeker, why David?
#12
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My husband has always been very fit. I never had any weight issues until after I had my son and my whole world changed. I didn't gain much during pregnancy, I just didn't lose it afterwards and then gained more. He has never made me feel fat or undesirable and I can't thank him enough for that. I have put enough shame on myself over the years. I am down 13 lbs since starting Sept. 1 and I already feel more confident. I have 32 lbs to go, and I can't wait to get there this time.
Last Christmas we met friends we hadn't seen for a long time. One brought his brother who I hadn't seen for even longer. As they were walking up to us I saw him look right at me and say "wow" to himself. I knew it was NOT a compliment. That was when I started thinking about my situation. It took until Sept. to really be ready to make the change!
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Last Christmas we met friends we hadn't seen for a long time. One brought his brother who I hadn't seen for even longer. As they were walking up to us I saw him look right at me and say "wow" to himself. I knew it was NOT a compliment. That was when I started thinking about my situation. It took until Sept. to really be ready to make the change!
I love this site, the tools and the forums!
#13
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Mona, well done on your 13lbs, you should be very proud!
Please don't get the wrong idea about what my OH said about falling in love with me again. He never nagged about my weight or loved me any less because of it, but I DID. It's more the fact that my confidence is back, I smile more, I FLIRT more and just generally feel better about myself. All of that has contributed to ME being a better partner to him and I think that's what he meant more than the 'sexy' part (though I am sure that is a factor, if I didn't feel sexy how could I BE sexy?)
Anyway, 32lbs is definitely do-able, good luck, let us know how you get on!
Please don't get the wrong idea about what my OH said about falling in love with me again. He never nagged about my weight or loved me any less because of it, but I DID. It's more the fact that my confidence is back, I smile more, I FLIRT more and just generally feel better about myself. All of that has contributed to ME being a better partner to him and I think that's what he meant more than the 'sexy' part (though I am sure that is a factor, if I didn't feel sexy how could I BE sexy?)
Anyway, 32lbs is definitely do-able, good luck, let us know how you get on!
#14
I saw a "what if" moment the other day.
I went to the park to run; we have a half-mile path that loops the soccer fields. It was the middle of the day and there weren't too many people there, but there was an older gentleman and someone who may have been his adult son. The older man was quite heavy; the son was not, and they were walking the path together at a slow and laborious pace. Often they had to stop and rest. The man was doing the best he could, but it was obvious that it was hard for him. They kept at it for quite a while and it truly brought tears to my eyes. I don't know if he had some sort of health issue and his doctor told him to exercise, or if he just decided it was time to get healthy, but the point is, he was doing it, no matter how hard. It was also wonderful to see his son or whoever being so patient.
They were very intent, and by the time they finished, I was on the other side, so I didn't get to do any more than give them a thumbs up and say "good job" when we crossed paths...but I'm really proud of both of them. I hope they keep it up.
You can always start. And, fortunately, you can always start again, if you have to.
I went to the park to run; we have a half-mile path that loops the soccer fields. It was the middle of the day and there weren't too many people there, but there was an older gentleman and someone who may have been his adult son. The older man was quite heavy; the son was not, and they were walking the path together at a slow and laborious pace. Often they had to stop and rest. The man was doing the best he could, but it was obvious that it was hard for him. They kept at it for quite a while and it truly brought tears to my eyes. I don't know if he had some sort of health issue and his doctor told him to exercise, or if he just decided it was time to get healthy, but the point is, he was doing it, no matter how hard. It was also wonderful to see his son or whoever being so patient.
They were very intent, and by the time they finished, I was on the other side, so I didn't get to do any more than give them a thumbs up and say "good job" when we crossed paths...but I'm really proud of both of them. I hope they keep it up.
You can always start. And, fortunately, you can always start again, if you have to.
#15
Loving the stories. One of my colleagues took a year out this time last year to go travelling. I never mentioned the weight loss in our emails. I saw him yesterday for the first time in a year and he actually walked past me. the look on his face when he realised who I was was priceless! He just kept saying 'I can't believe the difference, you look fantastic' etc etc, which needless to say, was music to my ears
I have to ask almeeker, why David?
I have to ask almeeker, why David?
When my mom was pregnant for me she and dad couldn't agree on a name, so they decided that if I was a boy my mom would get to name me and if I was a girl dad got the honors. Mom's choice was David Russell, and my dad had told my mother years and years before, that someday he wanted a little blond haired, blue eyed daughter named Amy. Some how or another dad usually gets what he wants.
#16
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Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: Wisconsin
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I think it is so sweet of your husband to "fall in love" again. But the biggest question is, are you in love with yourself? And it looks to me as you are! Which is the #1 goal in weight loss. Loving yourself again!