wildbeanerz

Oh yeah Cassie. She is just a girl that's a friend. So he says! LOL...do you remember (I think I told you guys) the story about being caught with a nekkid girl on gram's porch? Yeah, that was her. But they aren't dating anymore. LOL They just talk on the phone for 4-6 hrs per day. They are the very best of friends but she made a bad decision (smoked weed) twice while they were dating and he broke it off with her because of it. Said he won't date her because she makes bad decisions. I have to stand behind him on that one.

Nobe ... We have 2 sets of bunkbeds in our house. You and the kiddo can certainly stop by our place for a few nights on your FitDay tour! .... Really the more I hear about this situation the more I feel bad for both you and the kids. It really sounds like they are neglected but also have had their minds poisoned against you....I guess I can't really talk. I am doing what I can right now to convince my dad that the lady he is dating isn't the best for him. She moved in his house and I would like her not to be there anymore. So maybe I'm the spoiled brat! LOL There is a lot behind it though.

Hope ... I don't feed the one in the picture. He keeps ground moles and mice out of my basement though. ... I do have 2 ball pythons in my family room. They are 3-1/2 ft and 4-1/2 ft long. They eat small rats. I'm sure they could eat bigger but I already swore I wouldn't feed rats and had to move up from mice so I dread having to buy the medium or large ones. Yuck! Oh and they are spoiled so they only eat live food. No prekilled or frozen/thawed for my princesses.

Quinn & Mike ... I don't experience your pain myself but since 1996 (car accident) my hubby has had a bulging disc at L5/S1 with muscle spasms and severe nerve damage. He was off work trying to medicate and see a chiropractor 3 times a week for about 10 years. He decided to stop it all and forced himself back to work about 6 yrs ago. How the man goes to work everyday as a rig mechanic I will never know. I feel bad for anyone in that kind of pain.

quinnesec

nobe,

I'm a girl of little patience. So if it were me, one of two things would happen; either it would be their LAST summer visit (...At least for that long; a weekend sounds like plenty.) or, if you have a relative to stay with, I would pack up the two year old and tell hubby to enjoy visiting with his kids... you'll be back when they leave.

quinnesec

April,

Look at the bright side... she can take care of him when he's old! Beats the heck out of paying a Private Duty Nurse! lol

canary52

so much to say...

Nobe, you sound like an AMAZING mom. I wish I had been less attached to my child's happiness and better on building coping skills and doing chores. Even she says we never made her do enough even tho she still resists and always has. But the situation is not like yours. She works, was raised to be polite, etc. I'm starting to agree with Quinn: is there a way to shorten the visits or to minimize your time with them?

Mikle, sorry you have Sciatica Feel better. Is there any exercise (just stretching even) or treatment (heat,cold) you can do?

Quinn, I love your idea of the giving that book away!!! That party must have been so special. And I love the enthusiasm you and Cassie have for that classic book.

April, you're a better man than I. Love snakes, could not feed `em. Despite the naked on the porch story which I think I missed, your son sounds like he is quite sensible.

I am in a full blown fibro flare. I ache everywhere, the roof of my mouth has blisters, I have a "lady condition" I won't even describe to you, and I am throughly exhausted. So tho I am supposed to bake cookies for friends for the 7/4party I can't lift my arms and am thinking of maybe taking to the bed for a bit which is the only thing that helps. Maybe take a notebook and try to write in bed if I can focus. Fibrofog (foggy brain, lack of memory/cognition) is also another issue. But as they say, this too shall pass.

amalthea1892

Goals week of July 1st:
Water - tons of it! Not tons.
1500 - 1700 cal range: 1616
Focus on whole foods: N
Limit 1 glass of wine or beer/night (except Wed, I get 2): Y
Gym 2x: Not yet.
10 push-ups: Y
20 jumping jacks: Y
50 sit-ups: Y
Stretching every day: Y

Ama
5'6", 39yo

Daily weigh-in: M-125.6, T?
Maintenance weight range: 123-125

nobe

Thanks! Most people seem to think I'm mean. But kiddo doesn't mind (yet) so I don't see a problem. When I was a kid I didn't have to do much around the house because it was easier for my parents to do it themselves than to listen to me and my brother fight. My only chore really was to clean my room every so often, and if I did I got $20 a week. I never did homework, I never did many extra-curricular activities, and I grew up with no real work ethic or ambition, and I don't want that for my kid. I want him to be tough and hardworking and ambitious and proud. Ya know? Sometimes I give in...I tidy up a lot of toys through the day...but I want him to have a sense of how to be a grown up by the time he's a grown up. I've worked with too many college kids in retail that are entitled brats that don't think they need to work for a living.

Most other visits I've spent a few days at my mom's, and I might still if things get bad, but she's gotten so difficult that it's a real toss-up which house is worse. Usually I'e gone there when me and the hubby are fighting over the kids, and he's being amazingly supportive of me this time around. I was dreading this visit because last summer was so bad, but it's getting easier all the time.

And...PROGRESS!! I asked his daughter if she wanted to come with me to the store, and she said yes! And she answered me when I talked to her and I let her pick out some foods she likes and it was...not bad! It's always easier with just one. Divide and conquer!

cjohnson728

That's good to hear, nobe! I think you are totally correct...divide and conquer. Each one may be hesitant to give an inch for fear of disapproval from the other one. Good for you for sticking with it!

Hope, go lie down, girlfriend. I would come bake your cookies but I don't think I'd get there and get them done in time . I hope all is well with her. Sounds like you need the down time.

Snake food...that's something I try to pretend doesn't happen. Although it did remind me of the fact that alcoholic rats cost a $7 premium over regular rats (Terri, am I remembering right?). Takes me right back to my day in the rat lab in college!

I totally do not remember the naked story...how did you keep your cool???

nobe

We had a bit of a...porn situation with his son. I looked at the internet history and there was some stuff on there that was just nasty. Hubby had a talk with him that seemed to go well (although he lied about how he came to see it), and I'll have to figure out how to put parental locks on when I'm alone. He told him if he sees anything like that in the history again, he's cutting off the cable and internet for the rest of their visit. I know 13 year old boys are curious, but I don't know how he even knows about half the stuff he was looking at. I didn't know some of it existed, and I've lived a long time. Ew ew ew ew ew!

Mern

Thanks to all for your kind words on my good start yesterday. I may have to give in and shave my legs after all or else I'll have to sleep with a sheet between them tonight because they're kinda prickly right now. LOL

Mike, as much as you'd like to see it, there will be no cat fight with Cassie. And, hey, I didn't call her a turkey. Not sure if you meant to imply she was one or not--I don't know if everyone knows that "rumor" about turkeys. I should have known better than to ask you. LOL

Cassie, I'm too tired to Jello wrestle--unless I can count it as exercise. LOL I'm not going to challenge anyone for the 4th, but I will be on-plan due to cooking ahead. Low Carb Baked Soybeans done and I'll make low carb pasta salad tonight. I guess we'll outdoor grill pork chops tomorrow. Got some cabbage--might also make some vinegar based coleslaw since the pasta salad will have Ranch dressing.

April, I hope you enjoy your cookout at hubby's work if you go.
Huge cyberhugs to all of you who are struggling with family life issues. My heart goes out to each and every one of you. And more hugs going out to those of you with health issues. I've had my share of both, but right now everything in my household is running quite smoothly.

Nobe, wow, that was great to read that one daughter went to the store with you. Yup, divide and conquer may be the way to go--at least with her. Maybe your one-on-one time with her will grow into a friendship eventually. That would be so cool. With all the sadness you have right now, kudos on finding something good that happened on Monday. Wonderful about the pea plants. I've never had peas so good as the one year DH grew them in the garden. There's a world of difference between fresh and store-bought. Right now he's harvesting pinto bean pods almost daily that we eat young as green beans.

Hope, I am soooo sorry you're in such pain with that fibro. Honestly, after learning of it here (don't know anyone outside of FitDay who has it) I honestly do count my lack of fibro as a blessing. I cannot imagine how dibilitating that must be at times. Wishing you a speedy recovery with this bout of it. My being on the low end of calories yesterday wasn't planned--just workout out that way--probably because I ate a lot of Swai fish (like Tilapia)--a nice, meaty, filling fish that I sauteed in a non-stick skillet with I Can't Believe It's Not Butter spray.

Mike--buzzing feeling: finally someone knows what I'm talking about. People look at me like I'm nuts when I mention that buzzing feeling in my leg, below my knee. Same as you--not a muscle twitch and doesn't hurt but it certainly does feel as if my phone is vibrating on my leg, too--and it's not. I wonder if it's a nerve thing. Before I found out I have carpal tunnel syndrome in my left wrist, the only symptom I had was that same buzzing feeling. I still have no pain from my carpal tunnel--just that buzzing sensation when I have my arms in a certain position.

nobe

Mern - this is the first time we've tried growing vegetables. We don't know what we're doing and we're just kind of winging it, so it's exciting to see things growing. The peas are doing really well, and the tomatoes, too. We've had a few salads already from the pots of salad greens. I don't think the peppers are going to work; we've had terrible weather this year - like, February weather in June - and the peppers are most displeased. It's fun, and the kiddo's really into it, which I think is good for him. He knows which plants are which and helps me water them and shows them off to whoever comes over. It's cute.