Join Date: Jan 2010
I think that one thing that jumps out at me from your post was that you kept within your range of calories, lost some weight but it was slow, and then you gained it back! Sounds way, way too familiar - I have read this story on the message boards of dozens of diets. All proclaiming that other diets have made you fat but this diet doesn't... any diet ... followed by agonizing recalls of temptations and 'falls' and WOEs and successes swinging wildly from large weight loss (usually put back on) to small (why does it take that long!).
Instead of the painful recounting of weight gain, surgery, and diets, what can you learn from the experience of losing some weight and then putting it back on?
It can come back on practically in a matter of days - there is no shortage of good food, good meals, good recipes, all attached to good memories and good company and good feelings when you eat! But that's so easy to explain how weight comes back on. It comes back on for everybody. All different kinds of ways.
Dieting is just dieting. No diet is special, no diet is the answer. Some diets are healthier than others, but then people argue about that. Some diets are downright unhealthy, but you're willing to do them for as long as a month, just so you can see that weight 'drop' off. You don't know if you're hurting your health, you DO know, if you're reflective for a moment, that the weight's not going to stay off without hard work and tenacity. You're just going to bounce back up in weight, as surely as all the messageboards for diets will show you.
So, why not just be patient, watch your calories, take the guidance any dietician can give you (no imbalances, nothing but middle of the road stuff and respecting calories) and watch the weight come off in the time it takes for it to come off, with constant vigilance on your part?
Remember how Abigail Van Buren or Ann Landers used to say, to someone who would say, 'I can't go back to school to get my degree - I'll be 50 years old when I get the diploma...' The advice columnist would say, 'So, how old will you be when that time passes and you don't have your diploma?'
In essence, how long it takes is not the issue - how long the degree takes to get. That time's going to pass, with or without your effort. So, if you just make the simple, conservative, unhurried effort to do what works, slowly but hey, everything takes time, then you will get there, just in time, as long as time takes because time takes time.
Same argument applies to weight loss. I go to Weight Watchers meetings and listen to people complain that they are up a pound. Then next week, they are down a pound, then the next week, they are down a half- pound. At the end of three weeks, they are still down half a pound. What would they be down if they weren't trying to diet. (Needless to say, if they really follow the diet to the letter, it's usually more weight than that on a weekly basis - but a week is a long time, 21 meals AT least, and every one is an opportunity to eat on track or overeat...)
I don't mean to imply that these people piddle away their time, losing tiny amounts at most. I mean they spend the time and they get SOMETHING, even if it is a half-pound. There are success stories every week, going as high as 50 - 100 pounds. That's not because of the diet. That's because of the consistent effort of those particular Weight Watchers. Never, NEVER, has one said, 'Oh, yeah, and it only took me three months!' Whatever it took, if they reached a goal, they come back to maintain. Because that's the name of the game - maintain!
You could have maintained that small amount you slowly lost. But you didn't. So, the real question is, how you gonna do that? How are you going to lose a little, maintain, lose a little more, maintain, and do that all the way to the weight you want to be? It's the ultimate challenge of a diet - any diet!
Best of luck with it! Thousands of dieters fail on any diet. Thousands succeed. It's not the diet.
Last edited by Kathy13118; 06-06-2011 at 09:26 PM.