I guess I will begin with 11/7/2014 evening text messages.
Him: I feel like doing something mushy with you this weekend like going to an apple orchard or going to see a play.
Me (I wanted my response to be just a little bit flirty. It's embarrassing sorry): You can take me wherever you want to and do whatever you want to me
Him: In that case Ima gut you like a fish and dump you in the river.
Super wrong thing to say
Him: I know lol just having some fun
Me: I'm trying to move past what you said but if you don't think or feel anything wrong about that comment then I can't imagine having a good time with you this weekend. This is not an attack but simply how I feel. Please do not retaliate unkindly.
Him: Sorry then yikes. I'm gonna see if I can find something cool for us to do this weekend.
Okay. I don't know if I should be worried about this or not. I don't know if I am being too sensitive or if I should maybe break up with him. I don't know if I could break up with him. We have been together for four years, since I was 18. And, yes, so far he has been my one and only. I feel really bad but after we were going out for about 2 months I took his phone without him knowing, out of curiosity, to maybe find out more about him. I really didn't mean any harm! I went to his picture gallery on his phone and he had pictures of dead animals on his phone. I will admit, that really did give me an unsettling feeling, so I came clean and told him that I went through his phone. He said that the pictures were from his work (he worked for a mosquito abatement company so he was almost constantly outside), and that he took the photos of the animals because he thought that they were "cool". Should I have broken up with him right then and there? He has made comments to me similar to the one above, although honestly I can't remember the context of them as they have only been harsh comments like that about 3 times over the past 4 years, and I forced myself to overcome them. I, however, made it known, like in those text messages, that the comments were not okay. So why does he continue making them then?! Also, yes, he is a video game player. He was the type of kid/teenager who would rather be in his room by himself playing computer games than play real games. For that, he doesn't have many friends he talks to now. He mainly goes to work (12 hr third shift job) comes home and sleeps, then goes back to work. Now I am really the only person he talks to. Even if he stops making these comments for good, how am I to know that he doesn't think them? Should I be concerned? Would you be concerned or worried if you were me? Am I being too sensitive or dramatic? Should I bring up these concerns with him over dinner on the weekend? I don't know why but this time I feel the most unsettled!