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The mens locker room at the gym...[rant]
08-18-2011, 03:40 AM
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Probably because most of them don't want to offend our precious female ears with their comments. Also I think it has to do with ego & bragging. Sort of like a peacock thing.
I work in a very male dominated field as well. Customer service is all females but the warehouse (which I work closely with) and the sales force (also work closely with) are all men excepting 2-3 females. You hear some things you wish you wouldn't have. And also have some men who get to comfortable with the fact that you are there every day.
I work in a very male dominated field as well. Customer service is all females but the warehouse (which I work closely with) and the sales force (also work closely with) are all men excepting 2-3 females. You hear some things you wish you wouldn't have. And also have some men who get to comfortable with the fact that you are there every day.
08-19-2011, 09:04 AM
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This is the best read I've seen since I joined Fitday. I have actually laughed out loud several time.
What gets said when the other sex is absent applies to both men and women. Shortly after I was married my wife hosted a bachelorrete party for one of her college aged friends. While it was fairly mundane there was lots of alcohol and a porn movie. Some of my guy friends and I came home before the party broke up. We were hanging around outside not wanting to inhibit or intrude on the girl's fun. I was summer and the window was open. The comments we heard from those 'ladies' while the porno was running had us guys looking at each other with our jaws at out knees!
What gets said when the other sex is absent applies to both men and women. Shortly after I was married my wife hosted a bachelorrete party for one of her college aged friends. While it was fairly mundane there was lots of alcohol and a porn movie. Some of my guy friends and I came home before the party broke up. We were hanging around outside not wanting to inhibit or intrude on the girl's fun. I was summer and the window was open. The comments we heard from those 'ladies' while the porno was running had us guys looking at each other with our jaws at out knees!
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09-07-2011, 04:41 AM
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Perhaps it's my upbringing (i.e., one of four boys), but I have no issue being nude in public, locker room or otherwise. In all honesty, if someone wants to talk while we're nude, fine.
I would imagine that the majority of people are not freaked-out by others looking at their faces, hands, arms, legs or feet during the course of an ordinary day, so what makes a penis so special? Why is it creepy if someone looks at my penis but not if they look at my hand?
A body part is a body part.
Just my most humble opinion -- and I am not an expert on anything -- but it seems that any guy who is uncomfortable, or weired-out, but another guy looking at his penis has some type of deep rooted shame associated with his penis. Not necessarily with the size, per se, although I guess that could be it, but with some negative associations that have developed over the years (school? church? family?).
Likewise, if you're straight and a gay guy hits on you, why does it automatically become a negative about you. So, some other guy thinks you may be gay. So what? If he asks you out, simply state that you are not, in fact, gay. Problem solved. Hell, I take it as a compliment whenever anyone looks at me and finds me attractive, regardless of gender, race or age.
I would imagine that the majority of people are not freaked-out by others looking at their faces, hands, arms, legs or feet during the course of an ordinary day, so what makes a penis so special? Why is it creepy if someone looks at my penis but not if they look at my hand?
A body part is a body part.
Just my most humble opinion -- and I am not an expert on anything -- but it seems that any guy who is uncomfortable, or weired-out, but another guy looking at his penis has some type of deep rooted shame associated with his penis. Not necessarily with the size, per se, although I guess that could be it, but with some negative associations that have developed over the years (school? church? family?).
Likewise, if you're straight and a gay guy hits on you, why does it automatically become a negative about you. So, some other guy thinks you may be gay. So what? If he asks you out, simply state that you are not, in fact, gay. Problem solved. Hell, I take it as a compliment whenever anyone looks at me and finds me attractive, regardless of gender, race or age.
09-07-2011, 06:52 AM
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afsan01, I can appreciate your opinion but I can assure you that I have no deep rooted issues with my penis. I happy with what I have and I have no reason not to be b/c it gets the job done.
It's not always a matter of telling someone that you're not gay and they back off. I've worked with plenty of gay guys in the past and only one made a pass at me, he knew I wasn't gay and I reminded him. He had it in his head that he could convert me, it wasn't until I threatened to beat his ass (not in the way that he wanted) that he backed off. So, some people don't take no too well until they feel they'll be leaving on a stretcher.
I've never had an issue with a female seeing me nude, I just have no desire to show a guy my stuff just as I don't want to see theirs. Maybe it's how I was raised, I don't know but I do know that I have no deep rooted issues, so you can scratch that theory.
It's not always a matter of telling someone that you're not gay and they back off. I've worked with plenty of gay guys in the past and only one made a pass at me, he knew I wasn't gay and I reminded him. He had it in his head that he could convert me, it wasn't until I threatened to beat his ass (not in the way that he wanted) that he backed off. So, some people don't take no too well until they feel they'll be leaving on a stretcher.
I've never had an issue with a female seeing me nude, I just have no desire to show a guy my stuff just as I don't want to see theirs. Maybe it's how I was raised, I don't know but I do know that I have no deep rooted issues, so you can scratch that theory.
09-08-2011, 01:06 AM
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'I guess that's what happens when amateur psychology takes to the soapbox.'
IMO, it's not amateur psychology - it's discussing manners. The whole 'a body part is a body part' argument just blows, though... a guy grabbed my boob one time and it was not like he was just grabbing my hand. And had he grabbed my ass, it wouldn't have been any less offensive.
IMO, it's not amateur psychology - it's discussing manners. The whole 'a body part is a body part' argument just blows, though... a guy grabbed my boob one time and it was not like he was just grabbing my hand. And had he grabbed my ass, it wouldn't have been any less offensive.
09-08-2011, 01:33 AM
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'I guess that's what happens when amateur psychology takes to the soapbox.'
IMO, it's not amateur psychology - it's discussing manners. The whole 'a body part is a body part' argument just blows, though... a guy grabbed my boob one time and it was not like he was just grabbing my hand. And had he grabbed my ass, it wouldn't have been any less offensive.
IMO, it's not amateur psychology - it's discussing manners. The whole 'a body part is a body part' argument just blows, though... a guy grabbed my boob one time and it was not like he was just grabbing my hand. And had he grabbed my ass, it wouldn't have been any less offensive.
