I've been right where you are standing only my doctor never said a word about my weight she let me live in the land of deep denial way too long. I was told that I was obese in front of my entire family by a video game on Christmas morning
. Dunk dunk dunk, you're obese. Talk about a joy kill. You gotta love the Wii for honesty anyway. I suppose Mike does have a point, sometimes it takes an eye opener to see things clearly, unfortunately the truth is often painful. At least you've acknowledged that you have an issue, that's really the first step. I also endorse mcduff's take on don't get mad, get motivated. Shortly after I'd begun this journey, we attended a funeral for my BIL's father. It was pretty awful to think that both of his parents are gone, and he's 12 years my junior. I don't want my kids to be in those shoes, not for a good long while. That was plenty of motivation right there, the kids.
As for willpower I have terrible trouble there myself, but I have discovered that if I can eliminate wheat from my diet in the morning and afternoon that I don't get really hard cravings throughout the day. I'm a textbook carbaholic, so I wake up starving and when I eat grains, there will be a carb crash later in the day. It's best for my diet if that happens overnight, so I stay away from grain until at least 3:00-4:00 pm.
Don't even get me started on how unfair it is that men can eat more and never gain an ounce. My husband lost weight every time I got pregnant, the nerve of some people. It is what it is, just tell yourself that at least you will still be able to grow hair on the top of your head at 80. It still doesn't make it fair, but it's more tolerable that way.