Hi Phipps, sounds like you have really made a mental shift! Good for you!
I would also like to suggest that you go down to one of the threads in the Women's Corner and hook in with one or more regular groups, depending on whether you want accountability, or to be with others who have similar amounts to lose, or whatever. Someone was working on getting a stay at home mom's group going a while back, for example. Those groups can give you a daily dose of support. We have one group going now with daily goals for the week starting today; just read through a few and jump in. No groups are closed and all welcome new folks.
And now that you don't have to be perfect, you can be good.