Were you intimate BEFORE you officially became partners? I was married 28 years before my husband passed away - and during that time I went up and down the scales. But I can't comprehend a 5 1/2 year period of no physical intimacy. Does he still do the little things? Hold hands, sit close, pat your fanny when he passes? Intimacy is more than sex, but complete withdrawal of any physical contact seems beyond the pale. How does he react when YOU do the nonsexual intimate things?
Some men think that when they've changed the oil in your car, taken out the garbage, don't fool around with others, the "guy" stuff, they've proven their love.