Fitday has been a godsend because it changed my mindset and allowed me to find support when I need it.
I am not now or will ever again be "on a diet". A diet in my mind consists of salad and cottage cheese. I've found that 4-6 oz bbq steak with a huge pile of veggies fits nicely into my daily calorie allowance (occasionally).
It takes a little time to figure out what works for you, what your calorie range will be, and what works in the way of activity level. I'm still figuring it out.
Above all, my best advice is to BE KIND TO YOURSELF. Most people are kinder and more patient with strangers than they are with themselves.
"The destination will be alot nicer if you enjoy the journey"