Hi bigmomma, welcome to the site. Feel free to take a look around the various threads and you will find lots of advice. There is no "great way to lose" that works for everyone, but there is a lot of knowledge and companionship here. This is the link to what was developed a while back as the "best of" information; you can start here:
FitDay Discussion Boards - Threads Tagged with fitday best of series
Also, look at the list of threads and see which ones have a lot of responses. Those would be ones to jump into and start chatting if you need motivation and advice

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