I'm sorry but as a woman who's been heavier and thinner and as the mother of an overweight girl, I have seen that guys will go for thinner women more often than not, no matter what they say. Maybe it's a confidence thing but I've seen confident fat women passed over for insecure thin ones (for jobs and for men.) I'd love to tell my DD that the person you are inside is what counts but society will just beat the drums: thin, thin, thin. Even DH who claims to like women with "meat on their bones" fell for me when I was at one of my thinner points. And BTW the girls he points out are still on the thinner side by society's standards. Not that I'm bitter. It's just the reality, like it or not.