Originally Posted by Absentha
This makes me so effing mad. I'm sure everybody was extremely proud of you when you were pregnant. Most people keep showering pregnant women with kindness and treats because 'you've got to eat for two now'. However, once they give birth, they're too fat all of a sudden. Well, it's pregnancy, you're EXPECTED to gain weight. And for most women, it's not that easy to shed it afterwards. Just try and ignore their catty comments, you're better than that. I know it's horribly difficult to do this, but hey, what the hell do they know. It really pissed me to read about your husband losing his patience. What patience?? He was patient enough to have a child with you, he should be supporting you. And if he's not, that's his loss, because I'm sure you're going to make it. Just stay strong, if you can't do it on your own with the tools on FitDay find a nutritionist, one that you can work with. Eventually, you will find a diet/exercise routine that works for you.
Yes yes yes yes yes!!!
The word "patience" really bothered me too. A wife isn't a husband's property, and it isn't her duty to get back in shape after having a baby. Maybe it was just odd phrasing, but it made me feel squicky.
I think people see celebrities losing all their baby weight within a few weeks and think that's the norm...without realizing that most regular people don't have personal trainers and cooks and nannies (not to mention a lot of them getting tummy tucks while they're having their c-section). It's celebrities' job to look good, and they have endless resources to make it happen - often at the expense of their baby.
Why does everyone think that womens' bodies are fair game once they get pregnant anyway? If a guy gained some weight (without even making a person), there wouldn't be so much concern-trolling about it. Everybody thinks they have the right to monitor the weight of pregnant/post-partum women as though their body is no longer their own.
It's a proven fact that people don't lose weight by being put down and criticized over it. I think it really has nothing to do with the weight anyway, it's just a way to make thinner people feel better about themselves by making someone else feel bad...while all the while pretending it's because they care. If they cared, they would be supporting the person and letting them know they're loved at any size.