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Old 05-28-2012, 02:16 AM   #6 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by mszyandry View Post
can anyone please help me ?

my name is Yandry, im 22 yrs old and now weighing 293lbs. i just had the gastric bypass surgery on May 7, 2012 weighing at 316lbs. my goal is to be 160lbs.

i used to be a emotional eater. i am now on stage 2 of my diet which is puree food. since my surgery i have to combine 48-64 oz of liquids, 3 meals, my protein shakes and medicines which includes Multivitamin,calcium twice a day and iron.

to be honest im so frustrated and mad. i cant eat anything except for sugar free Jell-o, greek yogurt, apple sauce, sugar free pudding and sugar free Popsicle. when i try something else i get nauseous and discomfort, it feels horrible i cant even drink water without having pain in my stomach, sometimes i get so sad and depress when i see my family eating and i cant, i get bored easily of eating the same food over and over. i feel weak and dizzy all the time, i have become so lazy dont even want to go out and when i do i have to stop and recover myself from the dizziness and short of breath.

can anyone share their story and help me out to feel better and what to eat, i was a sugar addict and its so hard to live without sweets.
A few things I see here.
1) You JUST had the surgery, your body is going through a huge shock right now.
2) My brother had gastric bypass and at first he couldn't eat hardly anything and he felt the same way you do. He had a hard time holding down food.
3) As far as being lazy a couple things come to mind... you are severely calories restricted and you're carrying a good bit of extra weight. Both of those will kill your energy level.
4) As for sweets, I'd try to ween yourself off of them as quickly as possible so you'll have a better chance of not going back to those old habits.

Originally Posted by Rubystars View Post
Weight loss surgery doesn't cure your emotional ties to food. That's something you need to work on separately. I also think it's at the root of the problem. The WLS might help you to lose weight more easily but if you don't get the emotional part worked on then it won't guarantee that you'll lose weight or keep it off.

I think that people's weight level is more in their heads than in their stomachs.

You knew this was going to be difficult and I am sorry that you're expecting more difficulty than you thought you would but you have to be able to know that it's worth it and find pleasure in other ways besides food.
She did admit to being an emotional eater, many of us are or were. That's not always the case with everyone though. Some people just like to eat food that tastes good which is usually what's bad for us. While weight loss surgery won't "cure" the emotional part of it, maybe she will feel much better with herself because of the weight loss and SHE will make that change. All of us that lost or maintained have all done it for our own reasons.

Originally Posted by Mama_Loca View Post
Yandry, I am preparing for WLS and I have also given much thought to what you are experiencing. You've only just had your surgery, this phase will end soon enough. Maybe try eating at a slightly different time then the rest of the family and separate yourself from the eating rituals for a short time. Out of sight, out of mind. Take a deep breath and think about how great it will feel to be healthy and energetic. If you're carrying around over 100 pounds of extra weight right now, think of what you'll be able to do with it gone. I'm talking faster than a speeding locomotive, able to leap tall buildings with a single bound, It's a bird, it's a plane, no, it's Yandry!
Good luck on your WLS!

Originally Posted by Rubystars View Post
I would suggest you not do the weight loss surgery unless you're extremely overweight and in danger of death from it.
I can agree and disagree with many things here, so let me "dissect" some things here. IMO "and" doesn't belong there. I don't think that people should wait until they are in danger of death before taking drastic actions. Also, a surgeon will not perform WLS unless the patient is extremely overweight.

Originally Posted by Rubystars View Post
I'm against these kinds of surgeries for the most part because at the end of the day you will still have to control your eating.
True, when all is said and done it is up to that person to control their eating. In some cases until it is said and done, WLS is a good option, if THEIR doctor and surgeon see fit. I'm not a doctor so I won't tell someone not to have WLC or to wait until they are knocking on deaths door.

Originally Posted by Rubystars View Post
You will have to make a CHOICE to avoid overeating and having a small stomach will not prevent you from making bad choices.
So if the choice they have to make is avoid "overeating", we both know that a smaller stomach WILL prevent that. So why did you avoided that part and turned it into "bad choices"? I'm confused, which is it?

Originally Posted by Rubystars View Post
I have a friend who had this and she's very morbidly obese again because she never dealt with the reasons why she overeats. Being overweight is in your head. Deal with the emotional issues you have with food or any other problems related to your mind and food and you will be able to lose weight more naturally.
Being over weight may have been in your friends head... is that what you meant to say? I'm guessing that your friend gained her weight back and that's may be why you are against it? My brother also gained his weight back, but not everyone does so I try not to make a blanket statement based on the ones that weren't strong enough to change for the long haul. Seeing that Mama_Loca is new here, I don't know if it's in her head or not and I surely don't want to pass that judgement on her. I would trust that HER doctor and surgeon have already discussed this with her, if it is an issue.

Originally Posted by Rubystars View Post
All the surgery does is cause you to reduce your calorie intake for a while. You can do that on your own by choosing not to eat over a certain amount of calories. It's your choice what you put into your body. If you feel that you cannot control yourself in this regard then your problem is NOT that your stomach is too large. Your problem is mental/emotional.
True, the surgery will force someone to reduce their calorie intake for a while. Hopefully before or during that time, if there are other (emotional) issues it can be resolved. It should be her choice of what she puts in her body, some people are stronger than others. Some make the choice pretty easily while others may see a McDonald's commercial and feel the need to hop in the car and chase down the golden arches. Some people may have a FOOD ADDICTION that has nothing to do with an emotional disorder. Some people may just like to eat. Not everyone that overeats is in the corner of a dark room crying as they console themselves with a bag of chips.

Originally Posted by Rubystars View Post
WLS is misnamed. It's not weight loss surgery. All it does is mutilate your stomach. There is an alternative product, a sort of liquid you can drink that coats the inside of your stomach and makes it smaller temporarily. It's gotten really good reviews. I don't remember the name of it right now but a while back I saw an ad for it on fitday. I would recommend trying something like that before having a doctor basically ruin your insides.

I think even something like that would only be a temporary fix although it could help for a while.
Weight loss surgery is not weight loss surgery? OP had surgery and lost 23 pounds in less than than many days. I would say that she lost weight due to the WLS which would mean that it has the correct name. I'm confused again, you were just saying "You can do that on your own by choosing not to eat over a certain amount of calories." and now your recommending drinking some liquid that shrinks her stomach. Why would she need that if she can do it on her own?

Originally Posted by Rubystars View Post
You CAN control how much you eat, and you CAN do it without dissecting yourself.
IMO people should be able to control what that eat but should doesn't mean can or will.

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