Hi Tazigirl. i am a mom of two girls now 14 and 17 and have struggled with weight gain since depression after their birth. I had a husband who was always on about the changes in my body but not helpful. We got a divorce. looking back it would have been so motivational for me if he had told me I was still the sexiest thing on the planet, loved my curves and supported me through a programme as if we were in it together. Tell him you need his love especially when you are tired. I am now trying to lose 6 stone - 84lb. We can support each other.