Sounds like you guys are getting on the right track! Please post as much as you like, or go to PMs if you wish. The cool thing about threads like this is that others can learn from them.
I didn't really track my cals before cutting back, but I'm sure most days were WAY over 5,000. Heck, I've had days up to that when at "camp" even now--it's not hard to do. If you do that every day, though, well, we know what happens.
Keep up the good work!
47 M 5'8"
May 4, 2010...... 440? lbs. (Start FitDay Size 60 Jeans)
June 19, 2010.... 393 lbs. (First Weigh-in)
June 19, 2011.... 229 lbs. (164 lbs. gone in one year :-)
Current Weight... 185 lbs. (Size 36 Jeans)
Next Goal 169 lbs. (07/04/12)
Ultimate Goal 165 lbs. (12/31/12)
The best exercises for weight loss are Fork Putdowns and Table Pushaways.