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Old 09-23-2011, 07:13 PM   #2 (permalink)
rpmcduff
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Location: Westminster, CO
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I think the worst thing you can do is not talk to her. Let her know that her verbal jabs deflate you. Maybe she thinks they are motivators (like reverse psychology). Maybe she feels threatened. Lack of self esteem is rampant in todays society. Maybe she subconciously believes that if you are lighter and fitter you could do better and will want to discard her for a newer model.

Explain what it would mean for her to be a supportive part of your weight loss journey. Maybe even plan to include her or have her join with you, (even if she doesn't need to lose weight she can join you in your exercise routine and meal planning).

My situation is a little different although my wife is also trim and beautiful. Sometimes she just doesn't understand how much I am still fighting my old habits. Last night just before bed I was looking for a healthy snack. I open the pantry door and there is a whole box of Twinkies. I shut the door and went to bed.

Good luck to you!
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Male, Age 53 Height 5'-11"
Start, Spring 2009....,.. 270.0 lbs
January 21, 2010. ....,...255.0 lbs (Joined Fitday)
September 10, 2010..,..223.8 lbs. (-46.2lbs)
Mini-Goal......................225 Achieved 9/21/2012
Mini-Goal......................220 Achieved 10/26/2012
Current.........................216.2 lbs. (-53.8 lbs)
Mini-Goal.......................215
Goal..............................200



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