I am so sorry to hear of your sad loss. This has motivated me as well. I am nearly 50 and although I do not smoke, or overeat, in fact I eat very healthily, I do drink to excess and have done so since I was 16 (exception being for 12 months when pregnant and then breast feeding). I consume a bottle of wine every night and sometimes more at weekends. I know I have to stop for my health but also I want to lose weight. I need to lose about 20lbs and if I just stopped the wine I could do it easily. However extremely stressful life /job etc means that I drink to unwind. I know it is slowly killing me and I did join a help group online but felt so judged. This is more my thing as interested in nutrition and love the way food and exercise can be tracked.
Start weight : 165lbs.
Goal weight: 147lbs - although that may be a bit low for my height and age - don't want a saggy neck!
Best of luck