I just wanted to tell you that I admired your post. We all have different amounts to loose and are at different places in our lives, but it all comes down to similar feelings and issues causing us to not be the best we can to our bodies. My partner has been very supportive and I think that's important. We also joined a gym and have been trying to work together. I've lost 5 pounds so far and although I can't see it on myself, she's sure she can.
I'm just taking it one day at a time and trying to understand that I've never before in my life been a truly healthy person, so I don't know how to do that. I'm not going to wake up one morning and say, "ohhh!!! that's how I'm supposed to eat, and that's how often I'm supposed to exercise!" I have to learn those things, one day at a time.
I hope this helps, and I'll be sending good thoughts your way!