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Old 12-15-2010, 02:04 PM   #82 (permalink)
lynette185
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Originally Posted by SisterJen View Post
I'm sorry, but I have a serious issue with parents that do that to their children ...I'm not sure which is worse, putting an average kid on a diet in the 2nd grade, and setting up weight issues for life, or having food pushed at you to "solve" every issue (good or bad)...skin your knee, a cookie will make it better!...get straight A's on a report card, go to a restaurant and have a 3 course dinner, etc.

While I didn't exactly grow up in either circumstance, food did play a big part in my childhood. My family ate out at least 2-3 times a week (which is where I got my passion for multicultural cuisine), but most of my food issues were actually self imposed. I was pretty active as a kid, but once 6th grade hit, it all went out the window

Sorry for the rant, but it really is one of my pet peeves...I see it happening over and over in my extended family (I don't have any kids of my own, but it is really disheartening to watch my cousins do that to their children)

Don't be sorry for the rant, Jen. I know, it's frustrating to look back. And I also hate it when kids are messed up by a crazy focus on their eating or bodies. I think my parents had good intentions. They wanted me to have every advantage in life, and we all know what an advantage being thin is. Of course it backfired, but that's also due to some other events that happened later in life, not solely because of the early focus on eating and weight.

The thing is what to do now? Work to change it, to be healthy, to make good decisions on what I'm eating every day. AND ESPECIALLY to not choose food in the face of some unpleasant feeling or other.

This is my pattern: Stressed? Eat. Overwhelmed? Eat. Angry? Eat. Sad? Eat. Tired? Eat. And my favorite bad feeling: feeling forced by circumstance to do something I desperately don't want to do...eat eat eat.

For today, I'm focusing on the fact that I'm a capable, competent, 53 year old woman who's done a lot of hard stuff in her life, as we all have. I can do this. We call can.

Everybody have a great day !!! I'm going to
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