Welcome to fitday! There are tons of caloric-cycling programs out there. See: Calorie Calculator - Daily Caloric Needs
. Also, there's a thread under the WEIGHT LOSS forum, Weight Loss Tips
Cycling Calories / Zig Zag Calories Cycling Calories thread.
As for trying to find a weightloss buddy, there's tons on this board. Check out the women's only corner forum, and browse through the various groups. They should help provide the support you're looking for.