Thanks Erin. It's actually my brother. It is at the point where the relationship can't be mended. He's right and we're wrong. All over the fact that we didn't send a sympathy card to his wife on the death of her grandmother (who we had never met--she was 95). Unfortunately they have a little girl 1 1/2 and it means we will never see her.
P.S. No emotional eating--have been working my aggression out by cleaning.