My husband says I look great the way I am. I need to get into shape and loose about 20lbs the way I see it, though. He brings home pop, chips, chocolate, desserts, pizza. I feel that he is trying to kill me with kindness. He seems to think I'm not eating because I'm not going back for seconds anymore and watching my portions. I'm trying to eat greener and cutting out most of the junk, but he says I deserve a "treat" now and then. Everyday apparently. I wish he would join me and stop eating junk, too. He's gained about 75-80lbs since we got married 18yrs ago. I don't know what to do about it.